- You have the right to regress.
- You have the right to break down; to spend 1 and 2 and 3 days in bed.
- You have the right to fuck up at work.
- You have the right to make decisions and plans that are the best decisions and plans for you and your healing, even if such decisions and plans are inconvenient to others.
- You have the right not to be harassed and condescended to as a result of the inconveniences your decisions and plans might have on others.
- You have the right to be treated gently and with love, for as long as you feel it is required.
- You have the right to excise from your life any person who is incapable or unwilling to treat you gently and with love, for as long as you feel it is required.
- You have the right to eat too much.
- You have the right to sometimes use chemicals to deal with your crushing sadness.
- You have the right to use all the hot water in the shower.
- You have the right to solitude when you need it, and company when you need it.
- You have the right to view the status update on Facebook of someone who is going through their own process involving a family member when said status update makes reference to “not asking for a pity party,” and upon viewing said status and reflecting upon your own experience of grief and mourning, you have the right not to assume that the whole world thinks that you are constantly asking for a pity party at all times and are a whiny horrible bitch.
- What the fuck is a “pity party”, anyway?
- Are there special hats?
- You have the right to remember this, from the original bill of rights:
You have the right to move toward your grief and heal.
Reconciling your grief will not happen quickly. Remember, grief is a process, not an event. Be patient and tolerant with yourself and avoid people who are impatient and intolerant with you. Neither you nor those around you must forget that the death of someone loved changes your life forever.